Kindness is not given proper respect.
During the years I spent recovering from depression, I had lots of time to think about how I was treated by people. Some people simply ignored me, their voices not heard in 8 years now. A few came forth and not only offered to help, but actually did so. They helped me sell my vehicles, took no realtor’s commission on the sale of my house, helped me pack up and store my belongings at that time. Others simply took me for a drive around the city, always cautious of how I was doing that day. Getting out of the house was a huge event in my life at that time.
These were friends who were kind to me, thoughtful and considerate of me. This was so needed and appreciated as I struggled to regain my health. As well, when the vast majority of people I knew shunned me and my diagnosis, to receive such kindness was overwhelming , but the good kind of overwhelming.
But the idea of kindness goes beyond this considerate treatment of me. I see kindness as an authentic expression of concern or interest, as a thought or action towards someone. We are often greeted by people with “hello, how are you?” It is simply a greeting, nothing more, and at times it rings hollow. But when I was ill, some people asked the question and were actually concerned as to how I was doing. That simple question would provide a level of comfort.
Kindness from strangers was and is truly inspiring, such as someone being kind to me in the local bookstore. A smile from a stranger as we walked past each other on the sidewalk would provide hope that there are still nice people in the world. I am now able to return such kindness to others.
I know being kind to someone and having others be kind to me are such powerful acts due to the effect they had on me. Being kind can provide you with a sense of worth. Receiving kindness can light up your day.
Being kind only takes a moment. A smile. Holding the door open for the person behind you. Using words such as “please, thank you “ whether in person or in an email or message.
I see kindness as part of respecting others. To be curt or even rude shows a lack of respect. No one has the right to behave in that manner. Being kind is simply part of being a good complete person.
I am healthy now but even recently received acts of kindness such as being shown around a new city by a new friend with dinner included, and an unexpected package in the mail from another friend still provide a mental boost.
Kindness allows us to realize that the world though too often cold can still be one of warmth and acceptance. We are part of the world, we are not alone.